Writing

A (San Francisco) Bay Swim

The other week, while walking the hills of Sausalito with my Aunt and Uncle, I asked my Uncle what he would say to his twenty-five year-old self if he could go back and give himself any piece of advice. Without skipping a beat, he said:

Do it while you can.

Don’t wait for the fun stuff, he said. Don’t wait or put off anything that you “might want to do someday.” The someday is now. You’re only young once, and most opportunities are only put in front of you once. This, from a guy who ran a 100-mile race and then proposed to my Aunt. From an original Centipede in the Bay-to-Breakers challenge. From an ultra-runner before ultra-running was cool.

I’ve been taking my Uncle’s advice a lot lately – from a triathlon to a half marathon to a whole bunch of open water swimming – and I find the more I do, the more excited I get about life. I don’t have time to watch much TV. I’m pretty tired by the end of each day – but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Water (and swimming!) are near and dear to my heart. I wanted to share with you some of the images and stories from our latest adventure – a 9-mile trans-bay relay swim across the San Francisco Bay. For readers not from the Bay Area, we started at the northern end of the Golden Gate Bridge, and swam across the Bay, past Alcatraz, past Treasure Island, and on over to the Emeryville Marina.

The  swim across the bay: the route

We couldn’t have asked for a more beautiful morning of swimming out on the Bay. The weather predicted rain, but other than a short drizzle early in the morning at 5am, the rain let up and the wind stopped for the 3.5 hours we were out in the water swimming.  I drove my car down the 101 across the Golden Gate to pick up my teammates – stopping in various places in the city along the way, coalescing a group of people into one car. We were a pile of wetsuits and boots and mittens and parkas and gloves – just the normal fair for people about to jump into 60-degree ocean water.

Our team converged at the dock of Pier 39, near Fisherman’s Wharf. At 6am on a Sunday morning, the wharf is dead silent, with no tourists or people in sight. We met our boat captain at the dock, loaded up onto the boat, and took off for the Golden Gate Bridge. We left the docks at 6:50 am, and the sunrise was at 6:55am. As we turned around and readied our sleepy-eyes for the swim, we saw an unbelievable sunrise peering up at us over the Bay Bridge.

The beautiful morning sunrise over the Bay Bridge


Looking back at the San Francisco city skyline.


Beautiful open water conditions.

The swim started at 7:30am – with some minor delays from a sailboat that couldn’t catch wind, and therefore, was late to the start. There were 7 teams from around the Bay Area, with 2 individuals embarking on solo swims (for the entire 9 miles!).  At the start, my mom, my brother and sister, and my aunt and uncle (up early on another walk!) were out, cheering for our team.  After the horn started and we sent the first swimmer off, our team swam the relay in 20-minute segments, with a new swimmer jumping off the front end of the boat at the change, and the previous swimmer grabbing alongside the boat and getting hauled back up.

The start of the swim – taking off!  I’m the tiny yellow dot on the right-hand side.

The swim took us a total of 3 hours and ten minutes. My teammates were phenomenal, wonderful people to swim with. If there’s something I love, it’s being around people who love what they are doing – and my teammates love swimming.  We didn’t all know each other at the start of the race, but by the end of the 3.5 hour boat ride adventure together, we definitely shared a lot of great laughs and stories.

Nearing the end of the finish, the four of us jumped off the boat and swam into the finish line together.  One trans-bay swim, completed.  As a team, we raised $1200 for the BayKeeper, a local San Francisco organization that works to keep the bay clean.  We also had a lot of fun :)

Almost at the finish line!

 

My amazing teammates – members of the San Francisco Triathlon Club

Don’t wait for tomorrow if you can do it today. Embrace every adventure. In the words of my Uncle:

Do it while you can.

 

Eat Salad for Breakfast

Fresh Vegetables!

A friend of mine recently told me she eats salad for breakfast. I was puzzled – eating cereal, oatmeal, or eggs for breakfast is pretty ingrained in my being. Then I thought it over and tried it. Turns out, I love this. Sometimes I get to the end of the day and I debate between cooking up something fast (and with a high probability of being terrible for me) or stopping by the store to buy fresh ingredients for a salad.  I admit: sometimes I fail to eat my greens.

I’m a big fan of healthy living, eating well and being active. (During graduate school I was the director of a healthy living program for residential dormitories). But who am I kidding? I also LOVE brownies, the occasional pan of bacon, creating delicious desserts, and (I hate to admit this) even heading to In-and-Out once in a while to splurge on terribly wonderful greasy french fries (Mmmmm!)

Then I started eating salad for breakfast. By eating my salad for breakfast – and noshing on yummy spinach, artichokes, asparagus, brocolli, and other fantastic crispy and crunchy vegetables (who knew that cucumbers tasted so good in the morning, especially cold?), I am able to jump-start my day feeling as thought I’m already ahead. I’ve gotten my quote of fresh ingredients – well before getting tied up in the long work day and my extensive to-do lists. Better yet? I actually feel pretty good afterwards, too.

This isn’t a healthy living blog, though (although I’m a fan of them- such as my friend Steph’s San Francisco project, Eat Life Whole, and some Seattle folks I know who run Full Circle Farm). But what does eating salad have to do with work, career, or life?

At work, I sometimes find myself procrastinating on the biggest tasks – the ones that are the most important to me. Sometimes it seems that the more important the project, the more likely I am to delay working on it. Why do I do this?

Procrastinating? We all do it.

The more value a project holds, the more important it’s outcome is – for our egos, careers, and for our reputations. By procrastinating, we can later explain away the relative failure or success by saying “we could have” done this or that to make it better. By being less invested in the project, we can give ourselves an excuse for why the project or performance didn’t live up to our dreams and expectations. This is a common psychological fallback – in fitness and in life. We can explain away our excess weight or under-fitness by saying, well, I could have eaten more salads. Or, next time, I’ll eat more green vegetables. If I do that, then I’ll be healthier.

At work, do you put off the hard work and the long tasks? The ones most important to your career? In work, eat salad for breakfast. Tackle the hardest task first. By addressing the thing most critical to your success, you can avoid the later psychological arguments that crop up throughout the day. Better yet, you’ve primed yourself for success by initiating the actions and sequences needed for success. At work, starting off with the hardest task first is one of the best habits we can get into. Because what we do each day at work becomes our habits, whether we like it or not.

And at the end of the day? Well, you can probably have a cookie, whatever your work cookie is. If you’ve eaten salad for breakfast – it’s all about balance.

Eat your greens.

___

Images in this post from Success-Elixir and Full Circle Farms.

There’s more to life than this: Chris Guillebeau’s ‘The Art of Non-Conformity’

The Art of NonConformity: By Chris Guillebeau

Just got my copy of The Art of NonConformity in the mail and I must confess, I spent an entire lunchbreak (and early afternoon) out in the park, skipping work, to read Chris Guillebeau’s fantastic book and life manifesto.

Absolutely, stunningly inspiring. Anything I write here is just a small snapshot of the elegance in prose that is Chris Guillebeau’s writing. I am so inspired by his clarity in personal vision. It’s hard to find people who have distilled the basic tenants of life into such (seemingly) simple ideas and questions.

The book makes me want to burst out of the office and start painting humongous signs on it with my personal vision and life manifesto. (I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: I want to be awesome. Not your kind of awesome, not Chris’s kind of awesome, but MY kind of awesome. That is all). I LOVE life and I think that you, me, and everyone can do anything they want to do and be whoever you want to be if you’re willing to dream big, work hard, take risks and persevere.

There is so much in this world that I want to DO. I want to BE just like Mr. Guillebeau (but again, not really: I want to be MYSELF. And I know that you, too have dreams and aspirations to be amazing, in ways that I cannot possibly be. So what are you waiting for? What am I waiting for? Are you being amazing?)

For those of you who don’t know: Chris is a traveler, writer, and fearless entrepreneur whose missions are, among others: to travel to every country in the world, live an unconventional life, and give away as much knowledge as he can – for free. Two of his manifestos are A Brief Guide to World Domination and 279 Days to Overnight Success.* I highly encourage you to take a look at them. And be prepared to take steps towards becoming awesome.

Chris reminds us to take our dreams seriously and to challenge the conventional by asking what it is we truly want out of life. You can’t make something out of your life, he says, unless you know where it is you want to go. So: what do you want from your life?

Sitting on a park bench, watching a building age.

The brilliance of Chris’s writing is how easily he puts into words the most essential of life questions. The book is not long. The ideas are not in themselves hard. And, he’s refreshingly honest: the hard work is up to you. If you have figured out what you want (This may take some time, too – most people have not stopped to ask themselves this first fundamental question), you must be prepared to work hard and be exceptionally determined in order to get what you want.

Possibly my favorite passage from his book:

“… the world needs people who fail to conform and refuse to settle. Without the determined efforts of unreasonable people, most of the rest of us (including the “reasonable” people) would be much worse off. Martin Luther King Jr. was quite unreasonable to suggest that all free men and women in America should be treated equally. Gandhi was quite unreasonable to suggest that India should shake off the chains of colonialism from Britain.

Innovation comes from entrepreneurs and others who are willing to accept risk and try new things. Improvements in social justice come from those who question authority. Being unreasonable or impractical, in other words, doesn’t sound that bad to me.” (Dangerous ideas, page 222)

In the end, Chris defines World Domination asThe convergence between getting what you really want while also helping others in a unique way.” His manifesto to you? Decide to be remarkable. The best part about figuring out what you want? Your talents are probably helping other people in a unique, outstanding way.

Because the ‘Art of Nonconformity’ is simple:  “You don’t have to live your life the way other people expect you to.” And when you live your life unconventionally, chances are, you’ll be a lot more inspirational. Because you’ll be yourself, at your best.

Munich, Germany. Photo by Sarah

Full disclosure: Clearly, I adored this book. I’ve read a bunch** of self-development, professional growth, business, psychological, and motivational books over the years and during my many travels around the country. (Unfortunately, many of them aren’t that great.) I don’t always run across books that I can’t put down. This was a delight to read, it was quick, and it was to the point. Chris took a minor tangent in Chapter 10, “Contrarian Adventures,” that perhaps would be better suited as the launching point for a different sort of book; I would have preferred to go straight from”Radical Exclusion” on to “Your Legacy Starts Now,” because the momentum of the finish was diverted for a few pages.

* According to Chris’ “279 days to world domination,” I’ve apparently got 207 days left. While I started writing posts (somewhat aimlessly) a little less than a year ago, I didn’t purchase the domain name until April, and this site only became live at the end of July (approximately 62 days ago).  So welcome, new readers, to water falling upwards. I’ve got the basic framework of my site up. You can like us on facebook or send an email over if you’d like to get in touch. If you want to be featured in an interview, submit a guest post on this blog, or just contact me to say hi, I love hearing from readers. And of course, stay tuned, because the next few months are going to be rollin’. There’s a new design in the works, a million ideas for content and posts, a revised personal manifesto, and an abundance of photos to put up and share. I can’t wait to show you my ideas, to hear your stories, and keep writing.
** A bunch = hundreds.

Oh, October

Well folks, tomorrow’s the first day of October.  I AM SO EXCITED! What’s not to love about Fall? From back-to-school shopping specials and pumpkin spice lattes; tail-gaiting at football games (or watching baseball, hockey and soccer); to apple-picking and pumpkin carving; recipes for delicious warm soups, pumpkin pies and breads; mulling spices and ciders; and several brilliant holidays (World Food Day on October 16th,  Apple Day on October 21st, Halloween on the 31st,and of course, my birthday, the most important of them all.*)

I’m headed back East to Columbus, Ohio, and Philadelphia, Pennsylvania for a few days, where the color changes in the leaves and the beautiful campuses make me homesick for my alma mater.  In the spirit of one of the most beautiful seasons – I thought I’d express my thoughts and love of the Fall season in a photo-essay. Among other things, these are the best things about Fall. Welcome to October.


And, of course, here’s the unofficial list: The BEST THINGS about October, v.2010:

  • Back to school shopping
  • Notebooks, pens, pencils and books
  • The time change: better sunrises and sunsets. Winter hiberation (it’s okay! Spring will come!)
  • Late night barbecues
  • Pumpkins and the color orange
  • Fall Harvest and Wine Crush
  • Apple Picking, Harvest, Cider, and Apple Pies (I make a mean Apple Pastry).
  • Cinnamon spices, nutmeg, and cloves.
  • Fall Football games and Tailgating
  • Texture and color in the Fall trees dropping their leaves
  • Farm harvest: honeybees and produce and champagne, oh my!
  • Discount Theme Parks
  • Pumpkin bread and pumpkin pie recipes
  • Warm soup (My favorite recipes: French Onion with mushrooms, 17 bean, Split-Pea Soup, and Celery-Chicken Stock)
  • My Birthday (had to throw that in there)
  • World Food Day (um, that is almost as good as my birthday).
  • Holiday previews and discount sales on skiing, season passes, and winter lodges.
Have anything to add? Anything I missed? Leave a note in the comments and I’ll update this post!

* I wish that my birthday were truly a wikipedia entry, but I realize that there are also other things that happen on the 30th day of October.

Staying Motivated

How do you stay motivated? Motivation – the energy and power behind any project, task, or achievement – helps us stick to our goals, make progress during the hard times, and keep us moving forward.

But motivation can be fleeting. When I find myself in bursts of activity (usually at the peak of my motivation on a project), I like to prepare for the months ahead by setting up ways to keep myself motivated. It’s a like a plan of attack, if you will, but for my psyche and mental preparation.

When the inspiration hits (and I NEVER know when I’ll get a creative urge, so I try to let myself get sucked in and follow the pulls whenever I find them, devoting a few hours to the immediacy of the inspiration), I have a handful of tricks, tools and great quotes that inspire me during the “slogs in the trenches” — the time when you have to grind, work, and stay committed to your project.

First: I whip out my notebook (or a napkin and pen; or the back of a grocery bag; or I write myself messages on my phone. Sometimes I even call myself to leave a message with ramblings of an idea, if I don’t have any other means to record the thoughts). I write down every possible idea and phrase related to the project at hand, and even draw graphs, maps, dotted lines, or whatever else illustrates the idea I have. I like to carry a graph-paper notebook around with me to record my ideas. When I get home, I have a large binder that I keep all of these random ideas in (backs of receipts included!)  so that in the future, when I’m trying to remember my amazing insight from the day or week before, I can recall these thoughts while leafing through my binders.

I jot down a top ten list of reasons why I like the project. My “Top Ten List” is one of the best ways to keep myself going during the dreary days.  The top ten list is a quick brainstorm of things I like about the idea, what the next steps might be, who I might call or contact, and what directions to take next. Mapping out the project as early as possible helps progress the ideas beyond an initial “napkin sketch.” I find that brainstorming early and extensively as possible is the most productive.

If the project looks like it will pencil out, I then spend time creating a solid project manifesto. Before I embark on any project, I like to spend time writing down the “project manifesto” and answer basic questions about the project:  What is it for? why am I doing it? how will I measure accomplishments? This is a great way to test out the idea, quickly: imagine it as much as possible and try to flush it out into it’s layers before actually taking any action towards completion.

This is the project manifesto: the reason for being, the rationale behind the project. For any project to pencil out, it’s important to answer questions such as: “who is this project for?” “why is this project useful?” and “why am I doing this project?”  In the future, as I get bogged down with the details and minutiae of the enormous task I’ve mapped out in front of me, I’ll need to look back on the large ideas to remind myself of my initial ambitions and goals.

Next, I have a handy list of motivational phrases and quotes: I repeat these quotes like a mantra to keep me going during the tough times (sort of like listening to Tom Petty’s “I won’t back down”  during a flat stretch on a run or “Uprising” by Muse while training for marathon hills). Because, let’s be honest: Not every day is filled with the excitement and energy of the initial project phases. There are really tough days. Days when you’re not sure if you’ll be able to finish, when you doubt your own abilities and wonder whether or not the work you’re doing is useful.

If looking back at the project manifesto isn’t cutting it, here are some of my favorite quotes for working hard:

“Excellence rarely exceeds expectations.”

“If not you, then who? if not now, then when?” (For more on this topic, see “Jump start your next project”)

“Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.”

“If you don’t want to do something, any excuse will do.”

“Really great people make you feel that you, too, can become great.” ~ Mark Twain

“It’s my conviction that slight shifts in imagination have more impact on living than major efforts at change…deep changes in life follow movements in imagination.” – Thomas Moore

“The truth is, creativity isn’t about wild talent as much as its about productivity. To find a few ideas that work, you need to try a lot that don’t. Its a pure numbers game.” – Robert Sutton

“You have thousands of excuses to stop. But really, what excuse do you have not to do it?”

And when the going gets tough(er): Fill yourself up with knowledge and seek inspiration from other people who have worked hard to achieve great things. My bookshelves are near and dear to me, as they hold countless stories of inspirational people doing unbelievable things.

Chris Guillebeau, The Art of Nonconformity: “Unless you set aside dedicated time to produce your art, the art will not get made. There are some times when making the art is fun, but other times it’s not — so if you want to build something sustainable, you have to find a way to keep making the art during the not-so-fun times.”

Haruki Murakami, What I talk about when I talk about running:  “I’m struck by how, except when you’re young, you really need to prioritize in life, figuring out in what order you should divide up your time and energy. If you don’t get that sort of system set by a certain age, you’ll lack focus and your life will be out of balance.”

Christopher McDougall, Born to Run: “This is the most advanced weapon in the ultrarunner’s arsenal: instead of cringing from fatigue, you embrace it. You refuse to let it go. You get to know it so well, you’re not afraid of it anymore. … the only way to truly conquer something, as every great philosopher and geneticist will tell you, is to love it.”

 

Surround yourself with great people. The best asset you have towards your own success are the people around you, cheering you on. If you’ve told people of your goals, your visions, and your dreams, then let them know of your progress, your hard times, and your struggles. Some of the best feedback can come in the form of really great mentors and I’ve been lucky to have a few along the way. (I’m also always searching for amazing mentors, especially as I embark on my new writing career!).

Find a way to make yourself accountable. Ideally, we’re all accountable to ourselves, but sometimes we need external commitments to keep ourselves accountable.  Publish your commitment. Write it down, and make it a measurable goal. (For example, my goal for the first year of my blog is to post once weekly, without fail. I want to build content and grow as a blogger without missing any weeks). These specific goals keep you accountable, especially when inspiration gets thin or the workload starts bearing down during the tough times.

Create a calendar and check list of specific, measurable goals. I like to set clear, precise goals that outline the project from start to completion.  I frame out a goals’ list with achievable, measurable goals with a target date. I make both long term as well as short-term goals.  Setting measurable goals allows me to frame out later stages of the project. The best way to set great goals, for me, is to start by asking good questions:

  • Why am I doing this?
  • What is my end goal?
  • What tools will I use to evaluate my progress?
  • When I’m swamped, how will I know I’m making progress?
  • Who around me can give me good, positive, and critical feedback?

Having checkable, achievable goals, no matter how small, can keep the train moving forward. In order to track my progress, I set up a calendar with interim deadlines.  “Completable deadlines” that you can check off, cross off, smile and say “YES! I did that!” is a way to keep yourself making progress during the tough times. There’s nothing like a bit of deadline pressure to keep your butt moving.

Remember, no one can achieve your goals but you. You are the only person capable of fulfilling your dreams – and the bigger the dream, the scarier it is to fail. How do you stay accountable to yourself and track your progress?

Neal Mueller: On Tangible Goals & Personal Vision

(homepage logo from vmware.com)

Neal Mueller, climber extraordinaire and Wharton MBA graduate, is about to start a new job at VMWare in Palo Alto, CA. In this interview, we talk about the importance of tangible goals, creating an identity and vision for yourself, and key insights on being successful in the working world today.

Neal is a Senior Alliance Manager for VMware, a data center company that utilizes cloud computing and virtualization to re-envision the infrastructure behind IT and data management. Prior to working at VMware, Neal worked for Cisco and at a local San Francisco startup, CrowdFlower.

Tell me about what you do, and how you got to where you are today:

I grew up in a small town in Minnesota, called Chaska. After I went to college (at Penn), I worked for a management consulting firm, a venture capital firm, and I was a professional mountain climber.  The experiences of working in management and venture capital put me on the track towards an MBA.

While in graduate school,  I started hearing about this thing called ‘virtualization,’ the process by which you can run multiple applications on a single server by ‘virtualizing’ the hardware. It’s a very ‘green’ technology, being able to run multiple processes on one system. I joined a group at Cisco and VMware and met some of the smartest, coolest people I’d ever met.

Why do you do what you do?

I like tangible goals. I like knowing when I’m done. In tennis and golf – you don’t know when you’re done; you can always do more, play another match, golf around round. With climbing, you know when you’re finished. When you row, you can set a specific goal.  A certain distance, or a place to get to. In business, I like the work that I do because I have a very tangible, specific goals that  I like to accomplish.

When did you come up with the concept “tangible goals”?

I came up with this concept about two years ago, to describe what it is that drives me.  I wanted a better answer to the question, “Why do I climb?” and I needed to put into words what motivates me.

If you can figure out — and put into words — what motivates you as a person, then you can pick better goals, and figure out what things are in line with your goals.

Neal Mueller, Mt Rainer

When thinking about the transition from the academic world to the professional/work life, what took the most getting used to? What strategies did you use to adjust to the differences?

The hierarchy of the working world was new.  In school, you only have one professor, and that’s the person you go to when you have questions or want feedback.

In work, you have a bunch of people above you, so you have to figure out who you’re supposed to talk to when, when you should manage up, and how to figure things out across teams.  The dynamic of overlapping managers and organization systems can be much more difficult to navigate.

Also, as you progress through your career, you begin managing teams and other people. In school, you’re not managing anyone – you don’t have to learn management skill sets. That takes time to learn.

So, what are your tips on management?  How do you match the right tasks to the right people?

I like to find what makes people happy.  For me, if you give me a tangible goal and let me run after it, I’m happy.  Some people really like to be left alone; some people really like to work in teams, and other people really like direction.  Find out what people like to do, and then you can find work for them to do. Finding work for them to do in a way that makes them happy is really important.

This also goes back to the previous point about individual motivation: finding out what you, as a person makes you happy is very important and one of the most important things you can do as an employee. If you don’t know what you like to do, or what motivates you, how can your manager best work with you and for you?

What are the most important things for building good teams? And being a great leader?

Get good people. There is no substitute for really great people.

Lead by example. If you want your employees to come in early,  come in early; if you want them to work hard, work hard, and so on. The best thing you can do for people, if you want them to produce high quality work, then produce high quality work yourself.  And show it to them.

Also, have the highest hopes but no expectations. Be hopeful and encouraging, and don’t be disappointed in people when they dont’ fulfill your every desire. As an employee, it’s much better to work for someone who is always encouraging and hopeful about your potential, rather than someone who is constantly disappointed in what you do.

What skills and tools that you learned in school have been the most helpful in your current career trajectory? What do you wish you had learned in school but didn’t?

In high school,  I learned there’s a lot out there that I don’t know.  In college, I learned how to read quickly and write well. In business school, I gained a depth of understanding across all functions of business. Previously, I didn’t know about all of the different areas of business, such as accounting and finance, and the fact that I know about them now means that I can be a well-rounded manager.

Also, I met with people from entirely different backgrounds than me, but who wanted to go in the same direction as me – to build companies and be leaders. Ex Navy Seals, a guy who fired 100 people in his final year at DHL, and me – a mountain climber, we all wanted to go to the same place. I realized that there are multiple ways of getting to your goal – and that it’s okay, there isn’t one path to get you there.

(homepage image from vmware.com)

Any tips on finding a job in this job market?

This economy is kicking ass – it’s becoming a great time to look for a job. Lots of things are starting up.

What have been the most important assets in your job search?

Building a great reputation at the places I worked previously. Working with great people, and building good relationships.  If you put pennies in the bank, you’ll always have a job.

Literally or metaphorically speaking?

Both, I suppose. Metaphorically, if you build a great reputation and do good work, you’ll always have work. Also, for the year that I was between jobs and working with start-ups, having savings to live off of takes the financial pressure off of needing to work, and lets you search for great places to work.

If you had to do anything differently, what would it be?

If I had to do it all over again, I’d do it the same, except that I’m too far away from my family and I love my family. My sister’s in Denver, my other sister is in Louisiana, and my mom is in Minnesota.

Neal Mueller, Mt Kilimanjaro

What are some words of advice you would give to new people and young employees?

Be consistent – if people know what they can expect from you, you’ll be much easier to work with.

It’s okay to set parameters or have requirements (but not too many requirements). For example, if you don’t work on the weekends, don’t work on the weekends, and make sure to tell everyone this.  Same goes for if you don’t like working late in the evening, or if you like to be left alone in the morning. Be clear about what works for you and doesn’t work for you, and make sure to tell your co-workers about your preferences.

Also, nothing replaces long hours. Sometimes you just have to work and get the work done; sometimes you have to pull all nighters. No one is as well prepared as the person who didn’t sleep the night before. Sometimes I produced the best stuff from 2 to 4 in the morning.

And lastly, be a fun person to work with. If I had to choose between the smart person who’s miserable to work with, or the somewhat-smart person who’s very fun to work with, I’d pick the fun person five days a week.  People who are easy and fun to work with, excel.

Do you have any great mottos that you live by?

“It’s not an adventure until something goes wrong.”

Neal Mueller, Mt Elbrus

__

“Career Focus” is a series of interviews with young professionals exploring different professions and their journey from academia into the working world. Previous interviews have covered Project Management at BACRSports Medicine, and Web Development and Technology Consulting.

Why I Write

Someone asked me recently why I write, and I thought to myself, it’s because I must write. My brain knows that I have to do it. I can’t possibly imagine myself not writing. The question was silly, so it seemed. But then I woke up in the middle of the night, thinking to myself: I write because I have to. I write, because I need to.  And I realized that I ask other people all the time why they do what they do, what motivates them, and how they achieve their goals. And thus, in response to that same question I always ask others: this is why I write.

Asking me not to write is like asking me not to think. I write, because it helps me understand the world. It lets me put thoughts down in a place outside of my head, look at them, wonder about them, and push them further. I write, because it’s how I think.

I write, because I love stories. I am continually inspired by the people around me, and know that everyone has more experience and stories to share than could ever be recorded. I love hearing what people have to say, and learning from the amazing adventures of people around me.

I love ghost-writing. I like being able to help someone put ideas into word, to craft their mission statement, to fulfill their potential.  I have worked on many occasions as a ghost-writer for students and international people who have learned English as a second language. I know that for them, they must be much more articulate in their native tongue; I like being able to help translate these ideas and visions into print. I write, not because other people don’t have ideas, but precisely because they DO have ideas. If I can help capture your spirit, your ideas, and your thoughts in the tangible, printed form, I can think of no better gift to give you.

I write, because I love people. I am fascinated and star-struck by the wonderful, creative, talented, motivated, exceptional people around me. I can’t get enough of you. I think of life as the greatest blessing, and I love learning from other people.  When I get too busy, too full of myself, when I feel depressed, or when I get distracted: the people around me gently re-direct me towards a better being, they help me figure things out, they keep me grounded, they lift my spirits. I write about other people, and this act keeps me grounded by granting me a wider frame of perspective.

The interviews that I do are by far one my favorite things to do. I love talking to new people, listening to their stories and travels, and learning something new. You know the feeling you get when you walk away from a store, just having purchased something? With a delicious new gadget in hand, wrapped up in tissue paper and placed carefully into a shopping bag, ready for your eager consumption? The shopper’s high is the best metaphor I can find to describe what happens to me when I walk away from an interview. I’m happy. There are other forms of work that tire me out and leave me exhausted: listening to stories energizes me.

I write, because writing helps me to remember things. Writing lets me put down into a more permanent state the fleeting emotions and whims of each stage of my life. When I look back on my writing, I can dive back into the feeling of being twelve and awkward, fifteen with teenage angst, seventeen and leaving my family for a small college in Ohio, twenty-one and beginning graduate school in the biggest city I’d ever lived in, and twenty-four and headed home to California again. When I go back and look at my scribblings from my younger years, and the diaries of my middle-school, high-school, college, and even last year’s writing, I can see how I’ve changed, grown, and become different. Sometimes I don’t like to look back at my old writings: my memories of the harder times are tough to look at. At the same time, having the drafts, the memories, and the experiences are each lessons I can learn from, despite how embarrassing or hard it is to look back on things past (there even posts from last year I can’t believe I wrote!).

I write, because I want to be a better person. There’s nothing harder than looking at yourself squarely in the metaphysical mirror and really asking yourself what you want to be, who you are, and why you do what you do. I write to explore myself and to figure out what I want and who I am.

I write, because I love ideas. Writing helps me think. I love thinking about new ideas, about shifting our imaginations towards different ways of conceptualizing the way we work, why we do what we do, and the physical, tangible places and spaces we live in. (Oh that’s right: my day job, in architecture / urbanism / design). I love capturing a thought or an idea into an “ah-HA!” memo to myself, even if the memo becomes an impossible-to-read post-it note that sits unreadable next to my bed, because I was too tired to turn the light on in the middle of the night and the markings on said post-it end up being completely illegible.

I write because if I don’t, I can’t sleep at night. I often wake up in the middle of the night thinking of new ideas, stories, and things to share. My family is all-too-familiar with my 3AM emails and text messages (thank goodness for “silent” on cell phones).  I sometimes sit up for hours at night, reading by myself, mulling over new ideas.  If I don’t write it down, I’d be up all night, churning, wondering and thinking.

I write, because writing well is a great form of listening. If I’ve done my research and looked carefully and critically someone else’s work, the act of responding, through writing or listening, means that you’ve heard someone else’s ideas.  By meditating over the concepts and presentations of others, you can push yourself and others to develop new connections, possibilities and ideas. Much of the writing I do is not possible without the help and inspiration of others.

I write, because I have things to say and ideas to share. We are meant to be connected to each other, and writing, speaking, talking, laughing and drawing are some of the ways in which we share ideas. I love sharing my ideas and my thinking. And I hope that you, readers, find some use in what I say and why I do what I do.

Guest Post: 7 networking tips for Generation Y | By Rebecca Thorman

Chairs in Paris, Photo by Sarah

7 networking tips for Generation Y  |  By Rebecca Thorman

Everyone hates networking in the beginning. It feels unnatural after we’ve been spoon-fed our friends in high school and college. Nevertheless, I forced myself to go to networking events a few years ago because my boyfriend at the time told me that I didn’t have enough friends. That was the same one who told me I was boring. Quality, I know. But he was right. Honesty hurts:

1. Talk to boring people. Generation Y has the habit of being easily distracted. We defined attention deficit disorder. But that’s not the way life works. You can’t look over the other person’s shoulder. You have to be genuinely interested; you never know who will be useful towards your goal.

Some of the smartest and most successful people purposefully stay under the radar, and if you’re constantly scanning the room, you’ll miss them. Instead, treat each person like they are the most important person in the room. Make sure they have your full attention. Then pat yourself on the back when you discover the diamond in the rough.

2. Say what your dreams are. You’re an accountant, but you really want to be a musician. So, when people ask what you do, say that you’re a musician. The world conspires in your favor when you put yourself out there. I promise.

Wonder what his dreams are?

3. Meet before bedtime. Snookie Jaguar and I met last week, and he made a good impression on me. All the more so because it was 11:00 pm on a Wednesday night, and I was still wearing the same thing I had put on at 7:00 am. I met Snookie about an hour after a meeting with a local politician, and a few hours after a happy hour meeting. In other words, it was well after I had started my work after work – the kind that begins when I close the screen of my laptop.

Late-night is the new meeting time. Deals have always been made outside of working hours, and that is particularly suited towards Generation Y. We work all the time. It would be a mistake to think that work begins at nine and ends at five. If you want to get ahead, nine to five means nothing to you.

4. Heart your waiter. Act like you’re serving the waiter instead of the other way around. Smile, be overly polite and ask for their opinions and recommendations. People watch your behavior around wait staff closely, and many judge you specifically on the interaction you have with the waiter.

Don’t forget to give big tips. Twenty percent (not just fifteen) is a good rule, even if the service was horrible. People always glance, albeit discreetly, to discover how much you’re giving. Be generous.

5. Sober up. At your next happy hour, order a non-alcoholic drink. I don’t drink pop, so I usually just order water. People don’t notice. What they do notice is the lawyer in the middle of the room, swaying in a little too close to his talking mate. Entertaining as it may be, you are forming your reputation and it’s best to keep your tolerance level, however high it may be, a secret.

In one of the many interviews for my new job, the interviewer talked about how he would prefer to take applicants to the bar across the street to discover who they really were. There’s something about a restaurant and bar environment that makes you act differently. That’s the reason people do deals over meals and drinks. You show who you are involuntarily. Outside the office is where people will decide if they trust and like you.

6. First in, first out. Be the first one to call and set up a meeting. Then be the first one to send a thank you letter or email at the end. It shows that you can take initiative, that you’re effective, thoughtful, detail-oriented, and responsible. It’s a successful interview without having to get dressed up.

7. Fake being well-connected. Visit the best hair dresser in town, at least once if you can’t afford it regularly, so you can refer others to him. The information you will glean from your thirty minute appointment will be reason enough.

Or maybe you know a personal trainer, chiropractor, banker, interior designer, realtor, or day spa owner. Whatever. Just pick a few and have them ready to pull out of your pocket so that others will think you are well-connected. The up-and-comers will be grateful for the recommendation and the connected will have the impression that you’re already in their circle.

Networking (from http://www.mbda.gov)

The freshman heartbeat (and hello, Fall!)

On the open road (Photo by Sarah Peck)

Something about the rustle of the wind changes when the summertime ends. The heat is still there, but the undertones of the wind are brisk, cool, and cleaner somehow. I feel like the sky is a bit brighter, even as the end of the day shifts towards becoming darker earlier, and I shiver and reach for my jackets, scarves, gloves, and hats. I’m excited, because the changing of seasons means that it’s time to start school again.

Except I don’t go to school anymore. I go to work, where the seasons are less differentiated within the singular office walls, the time is continuous, and vacation is packaged into a tiny window of  ten allotted days for each year, resulting in a never-ending lifestyle that is, (I sigh) work. After spending the first 24 of my 26 years of life heading back to school and reaching for new school supplies, opening up new textbooks, and starting new classes, it’s hard to shake the fact that I’m living in the “adult” world now, and that the changing seasons don’t mean much more than a continuation of the same day-in and day-out work effort.

Looking out the office window, I still remember the freshman heartbeat – the feeling of leaving home, wandering a large, beautiful campus on your own, setting up the dormitory bed and peeking out the window to make friends. I remember watching crowds of people laughing and congregating in front of buildings, and quickly becoming a vibrant part of the student activities’ center and classrooms. It’s hard to pinpoint the exact moment when I, as a freshman, transitioned from a careful, watchful observer to the faithful student who associated this new place – and the assemblage of buildings, lights, classrooms, open spaces, and houses – as a “home.”

For me, my college campus became my home after I took a long plane flight back to California after experiencing my first snowy Ohio winter. It was great to be home, but I was – I was ME, new and different. I was on my own, independent, changed somehow. I no longer lived at my parents. I made my own schedule. I slept when I wanted, walked where I wanted to go, and studied under my own accord. I had made a home for myself on the large blue couches in the library, met fellow students and smiled shyly at boys that I thought were cute, and had interesting discussions with professors. I made the swim team and practiced for hours under the tutelage of the head coach, befriending fellow teammates and sharing in the camaraderie of early-morning practices and groaning at the late-night parties across the hall by the football team.

The fall, to me, is more ingrained in my mind as the true calendar than any other calendar I follow – moreso than the New Year’s (Jan 1) or the Fiscal  Calendar (July 1). In the fall, even the trees shake off their old looks, let their leaves drop to the ground, dig down their roots and set in for winter, prepping for a hard winter and a fresh start in the spring. I can’t wait to crunch through the fall leaves, try on some new boots, and possibly get a haircut to celebrate the changing of the seasons.

And so, in the spirit of heading back to school, and with a nostalgia for fall, I’m doing the same thing this fall that I’ve done all of my life: taking out my notebooks and pens, writing down my to-do lists, and setting my goals for the (academic) year.  Fall is a time for goal-setting, for reflecting on past accomplishments, and for cleaning out the closets and dusting off the old bookshelves. It’s a time to look back on the goals from those long-forgotten New Year’s Resolutions, and to perhaps check-in on our progress we’ve made so far this year on our rusty old resolutions. Just because I’m now a “grown up” and I go to work doesn’t mean that in my heart I’m not still a student. And, as the perpetual student and dreamer that I am, I like to make lists. So open up a fresh notebook, Fall students, because here comes another goals list for the 2010-2011 academic calendar. I just can’t help myself.

Image from: http://tips4india.in/

And, of course, my fall reading list (I love reading lists!):

Landscape Architecture, Urbanism and Infrastructure:

  • The Great Urban Transformation: Politics of Land and Property in China
  • The Infrastructural City: Networked Ecologies in Los Angeles
  • Center 14: On Landscape Urbanism
  • The Landscape of Contemporary Infrastructure
  • Trees of San Francisco
  • Smart Growth in a Changing World

Economics, Policy, and Money:

  • The Forgotten Man
  • The Diary of a Very Bad Year

Development, Professional Growth, and Business:

  • Millenials
  • The Art of Non-Conformity: Set Your Own Rules, Live the Life You Want, and Change the World
  • Good to Great

And for Fun!

  • War and Peace
  • Her Fearful Symmetry
  • Stones into Schools
  • Once a Runner

If you know of any great books you’d like to recommend, please share. I LOVE book suggestions. Happy Fall, everyone!

Fall Hammock, Oregon (Photo by Sarah)

On remembering.

Flags at USS Arizona Memorial, Pearl Harbor (Photo by Sarah)

Humans are wonderful at remembering, and also wonderful at forgetting. We are blessed with very interesting minds that allow us to revisit past events, but not so much memory that we get overwhelmed with thoughts, feelings, and a running play-by-play of the past. How we remember is through stories, through our thoughts, through sharing, and through memorials.

I want to take this weekend to remember 9/11/2001, to cherish and respect and pay honor to all of the wonderful Americans (and visiting internationals) who have made our country such a wonderful, blessed place. To all of those who died or lost a loved one on 9/11/2001: prayers and memories. To all of the fallen Americans, soldiers, and veterens of past and current wars: my unending thanks to you for keeping my country a safer place, for letting me enjoy my family and friends, for sharing with me such a rich diversity of people, and for an inordinate amount of wealth that I, upon being born, did nothing to deserve.

We do not forget the past, but we do not live in it, either. Nine years later, the memory of 9/11 is fresh for some of us, blurry for others, and continually being revisited and rebuilt, in plans and drawings and politic about the new buildings, churches, mosques, and/or other programs that will occupy the post World Trade Center site. How we proceed is still being determined, but the memory of 9/11 will live on beyond our lifetimes.

I am grateful, thankful, and honored to be an American. America, you may sometimes make blunders, but I still love, respect, and pay tribute to you. And I am eternally grateful to be living in such a wonderful world, place, and country.

The photos below are from a recent trip (2009) to Pearl Harbor, Hawaii, from the USS Arizona Memorial.

Oil reflected on water (by Sarah)
Boats at Pearl Harbor (by Sarah)